I was recently reminded of this quote, “Friendships are like chinaware, rich exquisite and rare. Once broken can be mended, but the crack is always there.” Now this cannot be more true about friendships. They are the real chinaware that one starts collecting in life, and one that one should protect keeping it in a industrial strength vault in our hearts.
Friendships are made stronger and come more closer when they are put through the test of time. In my humble opinion, resilience is one of the most important traits in a friendship, if someone is willing to be there in your lowest of times and then laugh about it after over coffee, that’s a gift.
Now, growing on that point communication is also one of the important aspects of a long lasting and happy friendship. Communicating what you are feeling to the other person, and listening what the other person means and wants you to hear is also as essential. Having said that, one thing I look for in friends is the ability to look through my outer surface, I want someone who can look at me and know that I’m going through something and is willing to listen to it.
One of the important lessons I’ve learnt recently in my life is to expect lesser from my friends, except for the bare minimum qualities of kindness, empathy and a shoulder to cry on. I’ve learnt that it is kind of stupid to expect one friend to check all the boxes. We have different kind of friends, some you just have a good time with, some you can talk to one on one and have meaningful conversations with, some people whose presence is just enough to comfort you, and some who are just there for a while and then it fades and that’s okay.
As Aditi rightly said, “Kuch logo ke saath bas kuch waqt bitane se sab theek ho jata hain.” Look for those people, and even having one such friend who has stood the test of time and many life changes, is a gift and we need to protect it fiercely. And you don’t need to be talking every single day or even sitting together in class, to be best friends, for me its the assurance that, that person is there whenever we need each other and having that presence and that comfort, that’s what real friendship is.
PARCHMENT OF THOUGHTS 
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