“You are not late. You are exactly on time for your own story.”
— Cheryl Strayed
In this age where, terms like situationship, benching etc have become common in love and romance, it is also okay to never have been in a relationship before, you don’t have to be experienced to be in love, it isn’t a job qualification that you have to fulfill.
But people have started to treat it like a prerequisite for being so called “cool”, which isn’t true at all. We often associate never having been in a relationship to something being fundamentally wrong with that person, and rather than others thinking this, we question ourselves, I know I have…a lot. And deprogramming this belief takes some time to do, takes a few meltdowns, a few calls with your best friend, maybe a few days where you don’t get out of the bed. And that’s okay.
In my humble opinion, love isn’t a thing we actively find or go looking out for, it is something that catches you off guard, unexpectedly on a random Wednesday afternoon where you’re sitting in a class, and you meet someone, or someone coming into your life when you run into them in the college library.
My point is, sure we can be like “I want someone” but we can’t force love, love is supposed to find us, not the other way around, as the saying I once read goes, “You never have to chase two things in life- true friends and true love.” Nothing can be more true, because it has happened with me too, that often times when I whine and cry that I’m not finding anyone, and when I least expect it, it shows up, maybe subtly but right in front of you.
Before you go about getting into love, the question that is vital to answer to yourself, is “Am I ready for it?”, because we often times like the idea of someone, and feel scared to actually do it, because we don’t think anyone could love us, and that stems from not loving yourself. So love yourself enough, that other people don’t have a choice but to.
curated with love, Angad.
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